Lessons From A Leading Lady

Meg Ryan. A woman who was literally #goals for so many young ladies. How could someone be so amazing? Within some of her most amazing chick flick roles, she showed her flaws within relationships. By looking at three of her most iconic roles:

You've Got Mail

Sleepless in Seattle

and lasts but not least,

When Harry Met Sally.

4 things we can learn:

The Good:

1. Always ask for help. Never be so bold as to think you know everything.

2. Be YOURSELF. Be yourself and never apologize. Whether as Sally, Annie, or Kathleen Kelly, Meg Ryan stayed true to who she was and never apologized for her sass.



So, what could someone so perfect as Meg Ryan do wrong within a relationship?

The Bad:

3. Fate. Not everything that we do is scripted. We won't always know who will sleep us off our feet, and even we find it, it might not be exactly what we hoped it would.

4. Strangers Danger. Chatting online and radio shows may not be the best ways to meet men. There is real danger that does come from these circumstances. If you choose to do this, be aware. Meet in public places, and make sure someone knows where you are. Just be smart, okay? Okay.

When Harry Met Sally and Tried Friendship

When Harry Met Sally is a great example of chemistry. A "natural" attraction that starts as a challenge.

The Healthy:

1. Chemistry. Whether it be the good girl and bad boy, or two friends, sparks can always fly. Healthy relationships may not always start with sparks, but a true friendship foundation build chemistry.

2. Friendship. Being friends first is under rated these days, but knowing who someone is BEFORE you being a romantic relationship is a great way to refine your selections before anything happens. Once a relationship starts then a friendship is the foundation.

The Unhealthy:

1. Love Someone Else. So many times today people use loving someone else as an excuse for divorce or breaking up with someone. If you're in a relationship, be in the relationship. Invest. Don't going looking for an exit sign. Don't get me wrong there is definitely a time to leave if things really don't work, but try to save the relationship you have before starting a new one.

2. Rushing. There is this cheesy passage that says love is patient. But today we have to specify that, real love is patient. Talking time to feel out a potential relationship, or dating relationship before taking the next step is not a bad decision. Feel comfortable with what you are doing. If red flags are going on if could be a real signal, or false, you don't know unless you take the time to think about them and figure it out. It is okay to do so.

The Special:

When Harry Met Sally has a special time of growth. At the beginning of the story they immediately have chemistry, but after time their chemistry has grown for the last 12 years leaving both Harry and Sally desperate for each other. Love is supposed to grow over time.