Lyla Garrity and Tim Riggins: Clear Eyes, Full Hearts, Can't Lose.

Clear Eyes, Full Hearts, Can't Lose.


Part of the Friday Night Lights tagline is Full Hearts. Within Lyla and Tim's relationship there are a lot of ups and downs, but honestly I think the best part of their relationship can be summed up in one line.

This iconic line defines their relationship. Over the course of their relationship Tim always pushes Lyla to be better. To Grow. This isn't one sided either. Lyla calls out Tim when he starts to settle about which college he is trying to go to. One of the ways we show love to our s/o is to be able to make each other better. Iron sharpens iron and all that.

The most toxic part of their relationship was when they changed what they believed. Lyla was very religious and that changed their relationship. In addition, when they started having sex it changed a lot of Lyla as well. These changes established a relationship that encouraged different parts of who each of them were. Lyla's ability to settle, and Tim's ability to achieve. Relationship built on certain qualities will encourage them to grow. 

Relationships that fill our hearts come from relationships that are built on qualities that we like within ourselves and make us better and encourages us to be the best we can we. 

Shout out to Chelsea! Thanks for leaving a comment! 

The View of Christian Marriage in Movies

This week I spent some time in the theatre seeing movies seeing some cheesy Christian movies like God's Not Dead 2 and Miracles from Heaven. Miracles from Heaven shows what a Christian Marriage could be like, but what about Christian dating?

   

Christian dating is kind of a weird niche to be in. Some couples may not touch for months or kiss before they are married, but all of these couples trying to see if marriage is the decision are doing something- they are laying a strong foundation.

Something that Christians believe is that a foundation built on God lasts. While not all of you readers will agree with that, something we can agree on is that relationships have to be built on a foundation. Whether that foundation is God, love, trust, mutual understanding, or contract, relationships are built on something. The stronger the foundation the better the relationship can be.

In God's Not Dead 2, Melissa Joan Hart is a Christian single adult female who through the process of defending her faith, meets a nice (attractive!!) single adult male, through this process they begin laying a foundation through spending time together and getting to know each other. This foundation of trust that Melissa Joan Hart has laid is latter betrayed. This foundation has a crack. If you know something about architecture, when a foundation has a crack, depending on where it is, the foundation may have to be torn up and relaid because it cannot hold. The relationship within this film is not broken, just damaged, and together they can fix it and build upon it.

In Miracles from Heaven, the mother and father's foundation has already been built and is now being tested. The security they had is gone and everything gets put on the line, but will their relationship fall? No. The credit cards are maxed, the tension is high from possibly losing their child, and throughout all that happens their relationship is shaken because one party is acting in faith and the other acting in doubt. They have to balance what each of them feel is right. In a Christian relationship, when God speaks to one party and not the other faith seems risky, and nobody likes risk. No matter what struggles we face we have to find a way to be on the same team working together. Dating is seeing what page each of you are on and finding a way to make it be the same one


In whatever relationship you are in, whether it is a christian relationship or not, the foundation needs to be able to hold you together when all hell is breaking loose. This foundation is the security of a relationship, it is something that keeps you both on the same page. It is the glue.

Matthew Murdock and Karen Page: The Daredevil Within

**Spoilers**

Matthew Murdock and Karen Page start dating in Daredevil Season 2. I was SO excited. The idea that the risk to Matthew was worth it to be with Karen was thrilling.

Whenever someone starts dating it means they've answered a serious question:

Is loving worth the risk?

The more we love the more risk we take. At the end of season 2, Matthew Murdock takes the largest risk a superhero can, revealing his identity. Love requires risk and openness. Being open is hard and there are a lot of ways that being open is scary. All of the secrets you thought you could hide forever either comes out or come between you two. Walls keep us safe, but they also keep us alone. Similarly to national safety, our love lives have to balance between being safe and having others involved. If we love each other their walls compliment our walls, in the good ways and bad. People who are closer to you MUST have less walls between the two of you. Some people are more defensive than others and have more walls, which is okay, but the walls between you and your s/o need to be less than between you and the rest of the world, especially if marriage is on the table.


So is it worth it? Well, Matthew Murdock decided it was when he revealed his identity.

Love gives us access to more than we have before. No pain, no gain, right? By allowing us to feel deeply we allow someone to hurt us in new and deeper ways than we have been hurt before. This pain CAN be great, but love WILL be great.

So will Matthew Murdock and Karen Page manage to fix their relationship by breaking down walls? Let me know in the comments!


As a side note, during the long scene with Matthew Murdock and the Punisher on the roof, the Punisher gives some advice to Matthew that reveals the same type of ideas. The Punisher is the wise fool. He teaches us what can happen when our pain is felt so deeply from loss. The Punisher realized that the risk was worth it, and continues to fight for the love he had, even if it is not through the best methods. Matthew Murdock gets to benefit from his advice.

Lessons From A Leading Lady

Meg Ryan. A woman who was literally #goals for so many young ladies. How could someone be so amazing? Within some of her most amazing chick flick roles, she showed her flaws within relationships. By looking at three of her most iconic roles:

You've Got Mail

Sleepless in Seattle

and lasts but not least,

When Harry Met Sally.

4 things we can learn:

The Good:

1. Always ask for help. Never be so bold as to think you know everything.

2. Be YOURSELF. Be yourself and never apologize. Whether as Sally, Annie, or Kathleen Kelly, Meg Ryan stayed true to who she was and never apologized for her sass.



So, what could someone so perfect as Meg Ryan do wrong within a relationship?

The Bad:

3. Fate. Not everything that we do is scripted. We won't always know who will sleep us off our feet, and even we find it, it might not be exactly what we hoped it would.

4. Strangers Danger. Chatting online and radio shows may not be the best ways to meet men. There is real danger that does come from these circumstances. If you choose to do this, be aware. Meet in public places, and make sure someone knows where you are. Just be smart, okay? Okay.