Within their relationship, Ellis and Tony take the time to get to know each other and make their motives known before they start dating. Tony starts with small steps that set a foundation through out time to move towards each other in a respectful way. Their relationship builds. Their relationship has depth.
If I was to give the blank statement that you should emulate them without some sort of critique then I wouldn't listen to me. So here is my relationship critique.
DON'T GET MARRIED JUST BECAUSE SOMEONE IS LEAVING.
People getting married because one of them is leaving for the military, or to go home, or college isn't a reason to get married. If your relationship is strong enough that you think you should get married then you should just wait and get married when they are back. Another reason not to just get married is for sex. If you believe that sex is just for marriage, I agree, but DON'T rush into a marriage just so you can get laid.
Ellis and Tony's relationship has a foundation where they communicate and have certain expectations of behavior. Both Tony and Ellis expect the other to be faithful, as well as work hard so that in the future they can achieve their dreams, like building the house on the pasture and having a family.
Having goals within a relationship allows both partners to be just that, partner. Goals bring the partnership onto the same page of where the relationship is and where it could be going. After you have been dating for a while, most of those basic questions have answers, but sometimes it is good to go back through those questions and just recheck.
How many kids do you want?
What is your next goal you want to accomplish?
Where do you see this relationship going?
What do you love about me?
These types of questions allows both partners to start talking about the future and goals within life and within the relationship. Sometimes a reality check is just what a relationship needs.
If I was to give the blank statement that you should emulate them without some sort of critique then I wouldn't listen to me. So here is my relationship critique.
DON'T GET MARRIED JUST BECAUSE SOMEONE IS LEAVING.
People getting married because one of them is leaving for the military, or to go home, or college isn't a reason to get married. If your relationship is strong enough that you think you should get married then you should just wait and get married when they are back. Another reason not to just get married is for sex. If you believe that sex is just for marriage, I agree, but DON'T rush into a marriage just so you can get laid.
Ellis and Tony's relationship has a foundation where they communicate and have certain expectations of behavior. Both Tony and Ellis expect the other to be faithful, as well as work hard so that in the future they can achieve their dreams, like building the house on the pasture and having a family.
Having goals within a relationship allows both partners to be just that, partner. Goals bring the partnership onto the same page of where the relationship is and where it could be going. After you have been dating for a while, most of those basic questions have answers, but sometimes it is good to go back through those questions and just recheck.
How many kids do you want?
What is your next goal you want to accomplish?
Where do you see this relationship going?
What do you love about me?
These types of questions allows both partners to start talking about the future and goals within life and within the relationship. Sometimes a reality check is just what a relationship needs.
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