Batman v Superman: Superman and Lois Lane’s Relationship

A movie with so many bad reviews, left one positive fact in my head, OMG they just so totally did an amazing job portraying the playfulness and depth of a relationship. Out of all the things that Batman v Superman did wrong (like the whole thing) they should get points for Clark Kent and Lois Lane’s Relationship. Coming out of Man of Steel,  I had some advice that it seems like they took.

             

Healthy:

1.                   Defined Boundaries. I was so excited to see that in BvS they had Clark Kent and Lois Lane in a defined relationship. Living together. Being there for each other. Whether or not they should be doing this before they are married is a different question, but I’ll just make the comment that most couples that cohabitate before marriage end up divorced. (Wanna know more? Let me know in the comments and I would love to chat.)

2.                   Family Matters. Lois and Clark are in a committed relationship. They have given each other everything, and so after Lois is safe, he goes to save his mommy. Family is important and it is important that your family and s/o (significant other) work towards having a good relationship (or at least can be civil).

Unhealthy:

1.     1.                    The world is more important than your relationship. There is a certain amount of perspective we can lose in a relationship. If your job is on the line and your relationship is good, you should be at work (not abandoning the world for your world). BUT LIKE, that scene though. Directly after he saved her, and he’s like “you’re my world” I may or may not have died. Perspective is good. Cheese is better in movies.

2.     2.                  Friends are Important. Throughout your relationship at every stage, friends are important. You need to have someone outside of your s/o to be able to talk to. You should have a friend (I recommend same gender) to be able to go to in times of trouble. Your s/o is not Superman who can’t save you if you’re pushed off a roof, but we can’t have everything we want. So make friends so they can have your back, and you can have theirs.

Special:

Relationships are somewhere where you can have fun, be yourself, and just be a little crazy sometimes. The scene where you can see Clark trying to beat Lois home to make her dinner is so sweet, instead he ends up jumping into a bathtub with her while being fully clothed. This playfulness and fun is unique to their relationship, but an element of fun and sweetness should be in every relationship.

Relationships aren’t easy. They always come from a lot of hard work and making the tough choices. Superman choose his relationship when he hit “pause” on the battle and went to save Lois from drowning.

Before Batman vs Superman: Man of Steel and a Lovely Lady

Superman and Lois Lane in The Man of Steel had a flirtationship. This undefined relationship without boundaries is built on trust and attraction. When Lois first meets Clark, she is trying to write a story about Superman, she knows it is him and chooses to trust him. When Lois chose to commit to Clark through keeping his secret their relationship truly begins. When he chooses to save her their relationship grows.

Their relationship, like every relationship, healthy, unhealthy, and special parts.

So what are they?

The Healthy:

- Superman and Mrs. Lane are both committed to the same values and have the same desires. They walk around Metropolis and work on making it a better place by fighting through the rough parts. Superman physically and Lois through reporting and working alongside the army to fight back.

- Their relationship has a bit of distance that allows both of them to partner together and grow alongside each other while still pursing their own strengths. Lois doesn't try to fly or be a superhero, instead she embraces the type of superhero she can be by using the gifts and talents that she possesses. 

The Unhealthy:

- Trust has not been earned. Their relationship is based on initial trust, without knowing anything about each other. Trust is one of the deepest parts of a relationship. You can only work with people who you trust. They trust each other, but does that mean that the trust is something they can rely upon? Lois is arrested by the FBI and puts everything on the line for a guy she doesn't really know.

- Where do they stand? Lois and Clark both have sent signals of affection but at no point did they establish boundaries. At the end of the movie, Lois rejects a coworker's date offer. Are Lois and Clark dating? No. Are they exclusive? Maybe? By not being on the same page someone will get hurt. Know where you stand.

Special Part:

- The deep founded trust and commitment may not be earned, but the fact that they can work together through whatever happens and protect each other is special. They work together and are always presented to be on the same page supporting each other. It is something truly special.

Is there another movie couple you would like to hear about? Let me know in the comments!