Batman v Superman: Superman and Lois Lane’s Relationship

A movie with so many bad reviews, left one positive fact in my head, OMG they just so totally did an amazing job portraying the playfulness and depth of a relationship. Out of all the things that Batman v Superman did wrong (like the whole thing) they should get points for Clark Kent and Lois Lane’s Relationship. Coming out of Man of Steel,  I had some advice that it seems like they took.

             

Healthy:

1.                   Defined Boundaries. I was so excited to see that in BvS they had Clark Kent and Lois Lane in a defined relationship. Living together. Being there for each other. Whether or not they should be doing this before they are married is a different question, but I’ll just make the comment that most couples that cohabitate before marriage end up divorced. (Wanna know more? Let me know in the comments and I would love to chat.)

2.                   Family Matters. Lois and Clark are in a committed relationship. They have given each other everything, and so after Lois is safe, he goes to save his mommy. Family is important and it is important that your family and s/o (significant other) work towards having a good relationship (or at least can be civil).

Unhealthy:

1.     1.                    The world is more important than your relationship. There is a certain amount of perspective we can lose in a relationship. If your job is on the line and your relationship is good, you should be at work (not abandoning the world for your world). BUT LIKE, that scene though. Directly after he saved her, and he’s like “you’re my world” I may or may not have died. Perspective is good. Cheese is better in movies.

2.     2.                  Friends are Important. Throughout your relationship at every stage, friends are important. You need to have someone outside of your s/o to be able to talk to. You should have a friend (I recommend same gender) to be able to go to in times of trouble. Your s/o is not Superman who can’t save you if you’re pushed off a roof, but we can’t have everything we want. So make friends so they can have your back, and you can have theirs.

Special:

Relationships are somewhere where you can have fun, be yourself, and just be a little crazy sometimes. The scene where you can see Clark trying to beat Lois home to make her dinner is so sweet, instead he ends up jumping into a bathtub with her while being fully clothed. This playfulness and fun is unique to their relationship, but an element of fun and sweetness should be in every relationship.

Relationships aren’t easy. They always come from a lot of hard work and making the tough choices. Superman choose his relationship when he hit “pause” on the battle and went to save Lois from drowning.